Texoma Hypnosis Center

As both a mother an a hypnotist I see the need for a strong attachment for infants and later on, children.  Many issues that I face as a hypnotist are rooted in the care someone recieves within the first few years of life.  Often the situation has happened before they were later conscious of the memory and sometimes with no realization from the person causing the event.  My goal is to educate so that the number of people seeking counseling, hypnosis, or a combination of both is decreased.  This is not to say that I would like to see fewer people get help for the problems that they face because proper mental health is important.  However, it would be wonderful if we could as a society do certain things to chidren in their infancy as well as early childhood to ensure that these little people grow up to be very strong adults.  My focus on the last few blogs has focused on the "cry it out theory".  There are many other factors in raising a sucessful child.  Postitive talk is another important factor in raising a child.  Always telling your child (and showing it) that you love them and you are always there for them is very important.  Everything said to the child until around age 8 goes in to the subconscious.  A child constantly told that they are very smart, brilliant, wonderful, and loved will function much more effectively and test higher than a child told that they are stupid, an idiot, hated or told that it was wished that they were never born.  A child will only suceed to the level of achievement set forth for them.  A wonderful example that I can state off of the top of my head is a wonderful little boy who has constantly been told how smart he is.  His mother worked with him to help him learn to read (before school began) and spent massive amounts of quality time with him to ensure his learning was sucessful.  He has recently been accepted to the school gifted and talented program.  Having known both parents and their intellectual capacities, genetics alone could forsee this happening. However, should he have been raised to believe that he were not worth anything, not loved, not hugged, not read to, etc... his outcome would be different.

Please keep in mind that all child rearing theories are not absolute.  I focus on the attachment parenting because again, I have seen people for problems and phobias rooted in infancy. 

Another wonderful thing to do for your children is to talk to them in their sleep.  It is reported that Tiger Wood's parents spoke to him while he was sleeping.  They told him that he could do whatever he wanted in life and be the best at it.  Did he live up to what they told him?  Everything said to your beautiful beloved child in their sleep goes directly in the subconscious.  Your child feeling anxiety about a test?  Tell them in their sleep how smart they are and how easy the test will be.  Read some of the material they are to be tested on to them.  A collegue of mine did this and had great sucess with his children.  He told stories of reading algebraic equasions to his children in their sleep.

The main concern with raising a child is to see that they get encouragement, praise, and most importantly, love.